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Randomness, Therapy March 24th, 2008
So I just made an appointment with a new therapist from the KAP list that someone recommended.
My appointment’s Wednesday afternoon in the city.
It’s just a consultation type visit to see if we’re a good match. She seemed nice on the phone, so I hope so.
And I just really hope I can be open for this. I really hate therapy. But I really need an objective person who can help me with some stuff and give some fresh eyes on everything. That and I’ve just exhausted the helpfulness of my friends. I’ve gotten as much as I can get from them.
I’m a little tired so I’m not writing much yet on why I want to see the therapist. I’m also trying to find the balance between being honest and open and not airing dirty laundry. So I’m erring on the side of caution for the moment.
Ok, wish me luck and I’ll be sure to let you know how it goes.
March 24th, 2008 at 4:36 pm
Ughhh, so many things to comment on! I don’t have the time! Stay tuned for later comments in the upcoming hours/days/whenever I get around to it, if ever.
Um.
1) Therapy = GOOD. Honestly. Meds alone won’t do you any good. I was going to say it was a proven fact/statistic, but I actually have no idea…
2) Make sure this therapist can help you with more than just kink/poly/whateveranyofthatmeans. It would be ideal to have someone who can handle both adroitly. Also, if you don’t get a good vibe/click with this therapist, don’t back down–try another. It took me years (literally) to find a good one, which I now have.
3) If you want any recommendations from my therapist, don’t hesitate to ask. However, I doubt she knows any kink/poly therapists, although truthfully, she may. She’s very well-rounded and connected.
4) I think being honest works so long as you keep from mentioning how you feel (when negative) about other people. (I’m not trying to be mean or insinuate anything by saying so. This goes for everyone who writes or speaks publicly.) As long as you don’t hurt other people, it’s all good. Of course, if an event takes place where someone does you wrong and you wish to speak about it on your blog, I think that’s okay, too, so long as you don’t mention names (even if everyone knows who this person is). It’s just polite, and oftentimes, people don’t realize when they’ve done something to offend or hurt. Also–exploring the situation and your concomitant feelings about it is cool–it’s intelligent, it’s introspective, it’s cathartic (or hopefully is all those things). As long as it’s not a mean-spirited rant (even if its merely a stream-of-consciousness tirade that was only meant to express your in-the-moment feelings), you’re okay. Those things (rants, rage, hurt towards or because of another person) are a good thing, as again, when written they can allow you to understand and process, to find a kind of clarity or lesson–but they are, in my opinion, best kept to yourself. Microsoft Word, during these times, is your buddy.
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March 24th, 2008 at 5:53 pm
I always look forward to your comments, Cody. They’re always so insightful…
I’m actually looking forward to meeting this woman. I really hope we connect.
Though in terms of her being kink friendly, it’s less about working out issues with my kink (because I have none- I’m happy to be kinky), I just want someone who isn’t going to think I’m crazy when it comes up- because it will.
And yes, I’m trying to rant without being so hurtful these days. I’m thinking I’m making improvements - I certainly don’t name names anymore! Baby steps, right?