Comments on: Words and Fear http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html Life, Love, Sex Thu, 20 Nov 2008 14:54:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Emerald http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1816 Emerald Sun, 29 Jul 2007 23:34:25 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1816 Well then. Doesn't sound like you are quite so "terrified" (to quote this entry) at all... Well then. Doesn’t sound like you are quite so “terrified” (to quote this entry) at all…

]]> By: Avah http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1762 Avah Thu, 26 Jul 2007 15:53:06 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1762 You know, as sadistic and cruel as Harry is, he's actually a pretty nice guy underneath it, which I've gotten a bunch of glimpses of. I have no fear for my personal safety with him. And even though I'm pretty scared of him, that's ultimately the goal. It does freak me the fuck out when he threatens me with even more extreme stuff, but he won't do it, like he's said time and time again. And both times he always took into account when something wasn't feeling right or I needed to stop. And it's those things that builds my trust in him. You know, as sadistic and cruel as Harry is, he’s actually a pretty nice guy underneath it, which I’ve gotten a bunch of glimpses of.

I have no fear for my personal safety with him. And even though I’m pretty scared of him, that’s ultimately the goal. It does freak me the fuck out when he threatens me with even more extreme stuff, but he won’t do it, like he’s said time and time again.

And both times he always took into account when something wasn’t feeling right or I needed to stop. And it’s those things that builds my trust in him.

]]> By: Link http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1764 Link Thu, 26 Jul 2007 14:55:51 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1764 Thats good to hear. It sounds like he knows what hes doing. Thats good to hear. It sounds like he knows what hes doing.

]]> By: Link http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1759 Link Thu, 26 Jul 2007 14:40:35 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1759 What to say, what to say ... yum works :) . This isn't in my scope of play, but I love that you can write about it and have fun with it. Its a wonderful thing when a woman submits herself to a guy. *evil grin* I can't say I'm not worried, I'm not in the relationship, and I don't know how much you trust the guy. If you trust him, go for it. It sounds like he's an okay guy, acknowledging your safe word and all. The after care could use some work though :p . I love the story and hope to hear many more. Play safe and have fun. ~Link Oh and to those anonymous people who cant form coherent and objective thoughts about the lifestyle, you have no place reading this, let alone commenting it. What to say, what to say … yum works :) . This isn’t in my scope of play, but I love that you can write about it and have fun with it. Its a wonderful thing when a woman submits herself to a guy. *evil grin*

I can’t say I’m not worried, I’m not in the relationship, and I don’t know how much you trust the guy. If you trust him, go for it. It sounds like he’s an okay guy, acknowledging your safe word and all. The after care could use some work though :p .

I love the story and hope to hear many more. Play safe and have fun.

~Link

Oh and to those anonymous people who cant form coherent and objective thoughts about the lifestyle, you have no place reading this, let alone commenting it.

]]> By: Avah http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1750 Avah Thu, 26 Jul 2007 03:28:18 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1750 Rock on, A! Rock on, A!

]]> By: A http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1746 A Wed, 25 Jul 2007 23:22:17 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1746 Good day, Something bothered me in this post and it took me awhile to realize what it was. Somewhere along the way, the desire to submit has became some kind of dark and depraved thing and, well, that's not right. Think about it, how can trusting somebody to the point where you let them bind you, gag you, control you be depraved? How can the desire to please somebody be depraved? How can pushing yourself to a point where you never experienced before be depraved? These things are beautiful. Good day,

Something bothered me in this post and it took me awhile to realize what it was. Somewhere along the way, the desire to submit has became some kind of dark and depraved thing and, well, that’s not right.

Think about it, how can trusting somebody to the point where you let them bind you, gag you, control you be depraved? How can the desire to please somebody be depraved? How can pushing yourself to a point where you never experienced before be depraved? These things are beautiful.

]]> By: Josh Jasper http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1739 Josh Jasper Wed, 25 Jul 2007 04:10:24 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1739 Well, anon. I for one blame that horrible rock and roll music, too much violence on tee vee, and not enough Jesus. Avah, I get that he sees you, and is perceptive of you. And that's good. But what's he like as a person, outside of what he does to you in these scenes? Of course, I fret for you, and hope for you. I fret that the power of someone who gets you that well in the hands of someone who you might fall in love with might not be good, if he dosen't care about you and is able to be there with you when you need him On the other hand, I hope he's a nice (mostly) sane guy who can walk dark places with you, but be good to you and considerate when you need it. Well, anon. I for one blame that horrible rock and roll music, too much violence on tee vee, and not enough Jesus.

Avah, I get that he sees you, and is perceptive of you. And that’s good. But what’s he like as a person, outside of what he does to you in these scenes?

Of course, I fret for you, and hope for you. I fret that the power of someone who gets you that well in the hands of someone who you might fall in love with might not be good, if he dosen’t care about you and is able to be there with you when you need him

On the other hand, I hope he’s a nice (mostly) sane guy who can walk dark places with you, but be good to you and considerate when you need it.

]]> By: Avah http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1738 Avah Wed, 25 Jul 2007 04:05:30 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1738 Gray Lily and Emerald- I know what you're saying about making sure I'm getting what I need from the encounters- and although yes I do crave that tenderness, it wouldn't feel right with Harry. Like, how you don't kiss Mr. Stern. I'm someone that needs both tenderness and roughness, but they really don't necessarily need to come from the same person. I can do fine going to see Harry and getting beat up and then have a sweet vanilla boy to cuddle with in the mean while. Really though, I've just recently let myself finally miss Jefferson, and that's more what it was about when I was crying. I just miss him. And I don't really want to write about it (not that there's much more else to say on the subject anyways). But once I got crying, I just started being upset about anything that had been on my mind recently. Gray Lily and Emerald- I know what you’re saying about making sure I’m getting what I need from the encounters- and although yes I do crave that tenderness, it wouldn’t feel right with Harry. Like, how you don’t kiss Mr. Stern. I’m someone that needs both tenderness and roughness, but they really don’t necessarily need to come from the same person. I can do fine going to see Harry and getting beat up and then have a sweet vanilla boy to cuddle with in the mean while.

Really though, I’ve just recently let myself finally miss Jefferson, and that’s more what it was about when I was crying. I just miss him. And I don’t really want to write about it (not that there’s much more else to say on the subject anyways). But once I got crying, I just started being upset about anything that had been on my mind recently.

]]> By: Noelle* http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1731 Noelle* Tue, 24 Jul 2007 18:30:21 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1731 <p>what the fuck is wrong with you people. deserve to be abused?!?!? Why not raped and mutilated why you're at it?! Have fun right?</p> what the fuck is wrong with you people. deserve to be abused?!?!? Why not raped and mutilated why you’re at it?! Have fun right?

]]> By: The Butterfly Temptress http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1730 The Butterfly Temptress Tue, 24 Jul 2007 17:24:11 +0000 http://designingintimacy.com/2007/07/words-and-fear.html#comment-1730 I applaud you for owning your feelings and running with them. I also find it an amazing show of strength to speak up when you'd had enough. So many women don't and it leads to trouble. Like you, I like humiliation. It's something I could use more of, truth be told. Yet relationships are what they are, yes? Stay safe above all else. And know that it's always ok to stop when you've had enough. Whether for a break or forever, stopping when you've had your fill is the best. Much love, The Butterfly Temptress I applaud you for owning your feelings and running with them. I also find it an amazing show of strength to speak up when you’d had enough. So many women don’t and it leads to trouble.

Like you, I like humiliation. It’s something I could use more of, truth be told. Yet relationships are what they are, yes?

Stay safe above all else. And know that it’s always ok to stop when you’ve had enough. Whether for a break or forever, stopping when you’ve had your fill is the best.

Much love,
The Butterfly Temptress

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